servant of Allah swt // infp - hsp // empath // generalized anxiety disorder // book addict // lover of nature & learning
Relieve people of their distress like you would want Allah to relieve yours. Forgive your wrongdoers like you would want Allah to forgive you. Show mercy towards the creation and the Creator will be merciful towards you.
Sheikh Muhammad Alshareef
You may have been waiting for a long while. But you don’t see anything happening. Remember, a lot happens behind the scenes. The Almighty controls entire creation. Why are you doubting that He can fix your problem?
Mufti Menk
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Babe, uncomfortable feelings are a part of life. They will come, as they have right now. They will go, as they always have. Then they’ll come back again, but they’ll also go again. There is no ‘peak existence’ that doesn’t include emotional discomfort. So, make some space for it, watch your little show, eat a little treat— a little enjoyment can co-exist with your discomfort. Try again tomorrow.
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Your friends aren’t your therapists. They won’t always have the perfect response to your problem. Sometimes they won’t have a response at all. Sometimes the problems you are going through are too much for an untrained person to process. Sometimes what your going through can be triggering to others so they might not be able to help even if they want to. I know a lot of people here are younger and I want you to know that your friends are kids just like you so they can’t always help. Even adults don’t always have the answers.
That being said people can still support each other without knowing all the answers. Be willing to listen. Be a shoulder to cry on. We will help where we can and with what we can. But we aren’t trained to diagnose or treat you. We can offer you support but sometimes it may be from afar. That doesn’t mean we don’t care. Because we do. Because you matter.
(via girlwithptsd)
Truth is that the heart needs more forms of love from your partner than just romantic love. It needs the nurturing and unconditional love like the one that comes from a parent. It needs the love that helps you achieve your maximum potential, that empowers your virtues and is patient with your flaws like that of a teacher. It needs the love of a friend who will listen without judgment, who will laugh with you and be your confidant and accomplice. It needs the devoted love of a healer who will tend to your wounds and hurts and never turn a blind eye to your suffering but rather help the healing process knowing all the time the healing and the timing is all yours. Love is more than just romance and passion, and sooner or later it will die out if you do not nurture all the other faces of love. For if love has a thousand faces, how bland would it be if my love for you were the same one all the time.
e.v.e.
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If you grew up needing to keep everyone happy and content in order to avoid excessive negative reactions or behaviours, chances are you need to bring this habit also in the other relationships you join.
So anytime the other person is feeling down, you may start stressing over what you can do to make them better, if it was your fault (you may think this even if it objectively isn’t possible -eg. this person has had a bad day at work and you don’t even work with them- cause you were often accused or blamed for everything in the past), and may stress them even more to get answers to your doubts.If it happens, try to remind yourself that it’s okay to have bad moments and to feel sad: it’s part of life as much as feeling good and happy. It doesn’t have to be your fault (and very likely it’s not) and you don’t have to be responsible for everyone’s feelings. The person you’re dealing with is just a person as you are, and they cannot always be happy and hyped, they do deal with stuff aside of your relationship too (not to say that even if it was something about the relationship, you still can give them space and the ability to process the situation at their own conditions). Let them know you’re by their side if they need support or to talk or anything, and then let them deal with anything the way they rather.
You don’t have to make anything better for everyone, it’s not on you. Sometimes people don’t need to be saved by you and that’s fine.
You’re not someone so worthless that you will only be accepted by others if you become the perfect person for them, or if you work or study as much as you can to prove you are productive and valuable. You don’t have to strive to be financially well-off only to prove to others that you are successful and finally be seen as good enough. You don’t have to do anything for you to matter, you already do. You don’t have to earn your worth as a person, and I’m sorry someone expected you to, and it left you feeling like there was something “wrong” with you. They were wrong. You are valuable just as you are. Try to remember that every time you start to feel like you have to prove your worth.
somehow, amazingly, i have hacked the impulse that makes me mindlessly scroll on my phone. it’s not gone but i’ve paired it with a conscious thought process that goes like, “what’s my goal here? i’m looking for entertainment, for information, for something that makes me feel more optimistic and interested in the world i live in…”
and because that kicks in between apps, too, i’m not doomscrolling as much. i’m intentionally seeking out posts or videos or whatever that actually mean something to me. when i’m not satisfied i walk away or pick up a book instead. most subtle yet impactful change i’ve gone through in years
i did not intentionally set out to change this. i’ve just been working on my mindset in general. hey, turns out having a good therapist again helps
thank you to everyone who has liked this post for reminding me to keep up the habit. just caught myself doomscrolling and remembered i have a nice podcast i could be listening to instead
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“But seek, through that which Allah has given you, the home of the Hereafter; and do not forget your share of this world. And do good as Allah has done good to you. And desire not corruption in the land. Indeed, Allah does not like corrupters.”
28:77
Ya Allah, when my lips no longer know what to ask for in prayer, please hear my heart.
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How To Plan Your Day 🌒📝💡✨
- Start the night before. What do you need to do tomorrow to meet your needs? Write down the most important tasks you want to complete the next day. This gives you a clear starting point in the morning.
- Create a morning routine that is focused on your well being. Exercise, meditate, read etc.
- Make a list of all the things you need to do. Put the most important things at the top of the list.
- Divide your day into chunks of time. Decide when you’ll do each task.
- Estimate the time it will take you to complete each task.
- If a big task seems too hard, break it into smaller steps.
- Batch the similar tasks together for maximum efficiency.
- Try to do one thing at a time. Multitasking might not help you get things done better.
- Don’t plan too many things. Only plan what you can really do.
- Check your progress during the day. Change your plans if things are not going as expected.
- At the end of the day, think about what you did and what’s left. Learn from what went well and what didn’t.
- Finish each day with a quick clean up. What can do you now to set up your spaces and routines for both self care and efficiency.
- Choose what you’ll wear the next day, including clothes, shoes, and accessories. This saves you time in the morning and helps you avoid last-minute outfit decisions.
- If you have to take things with you (like a work bag or gym bag), pack it with everything you need. This prevents you from rushing around in the morning to gather your things.
- Lay out items you’ll need in the morning, like your keys, wallet, or important papers. This way, you won’t have to search for them when you’re in a rush.
- Take some time to wind down before bed. Read a book, practice some light stretching, or do something relaxing to help you sleep better.
- Charge your phone, tablet, or laptop overnight so you start the day with fully charged devices.
- Set your alarm for the time you want to wake up. Having a consistent wake-up time helps regulate your body clock.
- Try to avoid looking at screens (phones, tablets, computers) at least an hour before bed. The blue light from screens can interfere with sleep.
- Take a moment to reflect on the day and think about what you’re looking forward to tomorrow. Visualizing a positive morning can help set a good tone for the next day.
- Pick a weekly prep day and clean the house, meal prep, review your calendar and to do list for the week ahead.
Being slow in life is fine. Taking longer to figure life out than others is not a bad thing. Lots of super successful people were late bloomers, who knows what amazing things you could accomplish once you heal more.
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